How Not To Pick Partners
Your approach, or the manner in which you manage your group, is everything. And this couldn’t be more true than at the beginning of your program.
Consider that one of the most frightening things you could ask your group to do is the seemingly innouous command “pick a partner.” To some people, including yours truly, when I was young and asked to pick a partner, the words I heard were “find someone who likes you.”
Now, I’m not saying to never use these words to form pairs; I’m suggesting that this partnering technique may be less successful, or perhaps even awkward, at the beginning of your program, especially for some of the less confident, less able or less “included” members of your group.
To avoid the socially clumsy moments of “…you’ve only picked me because there was no one else,” or “… you wanted to hit on me,” or “…you had to,” etc, give people a reason to be with someone. A reason that you specify, for example, Find someone who has … “similar length of hair to you … same colour eyes as you … same size hand as you … similar looking knees … etc,” you get the idea. The more random and silly, the better.
It’ll rarely work out perfectly (that it is say, you may need to invite some folks to simply partner up with anyone because they can’t find a match), but it will provide an initial framework in which to search for a partner, and it will have little to do with ability, looks or gender.
For more ideas about how to divide groups up randomly, check out ‘Count Me In: Large Group Activities That Work.’
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